I have a meet-and-greet no-obligations coffee date this week with a trans man, probably leading to him coming over this weekend if we hit it off in person. I’m a cis bi man, and I’ve never been with a trans man before. Obviously he and I are going to talk about mutual expectations and limits, safewords, etc. But are there any things that I should absolutely not do or say that are basically universal in the trans man experience? I want to get off on the right foot.
more sorta off topic AMAB/AFAB essentialism
Local homeless services used to list trans people as “Trans Woman/MTF/AMAB”, “Trans man/FTM/AFAB”, or “Gender Non-Conforming” on all internal databases until very recently. I had to write the Joint Office many many letters and talk to many confused cis people about how unnecessary including AGAB was.