I distinctly remember some years ago the very same feral hog boomers very upset that young people didn’t care about things outside of their iphone and avocado toast. Now they care about the wrong things and some hot couch guy with a nightstick is coming to cave their head in.

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      As an ADHDer trans woman I totally relate.

      Neurotypicality is a false consciousness imo, too many people place too much stock in relating to others not based on material circumstances but based on assuming every person is basically very literally the same, when you’re outside it, you see it’s just bioessentialism repackaged with the word omitted - a creepy cult called “culture”.

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        Oh God YES

        Where did you read that line (if it isn’t yours)?

        I agree with it completely.

        I’m ADHD and Autistic and OCD.

        Have sleep apnea and probably IBS (lol, though I shouldn’t be laughing).

        You put it soooooooooo well just now.

        (Also, I have gender dysphoria and don’t feel like a man.)

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          Thank you! The line is mine, but it’s heavily inspired by “Gender Nihilism” by Alyson Escalate and “The Xenofeminist Manifesto” as well as other feminist works that go against the ‘biological destiny’ narrative, i.e. The Dialectics of Sex by Shulamith Firestone which is ironically enough sometimes cited by TERFs so YMMV but I don’t read the work as justifying their beliefs at all, though I find it disagreeable in other ways.

          It is perhaps also worthwhile reading the sort of discourse the above works arose almost in response to: the patriarchal falsification of the biological facts of cis women and suppression of education relating to that which would threaten the patriarchal premise, beautifully illustrated in Evelyn Reed’s “Is biology women’s destiny?” (Marxist Internet Archive), because the above works are written to suggest that while the above is true, it may be that the better line of thinking is to ultimately reject identity, because it’s not the word but the desire to classify people into identities like this that really is ultimately harmful.

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      Yep. Undiagnosed until adulthood. Seeing how even many progressives and “leftists” treat us is some serious blackpill shit.

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        I wish, but it sometimes feels like even Hexbear treats us roughly.

        Well, communist spaces have this problem in general.

        Speaking of Hexbear, I once saw someone defend ABA and said that she did this to her own child and that it was necessary. ABA! Fuck that shit.

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          I haven’t experienced it myself, but my confidence is so busted that tolerating my existence qualifies aa great inclusion. I do think bear website is ahead of other spaces, but what issues do you have with how it is now? Is there anything that could be done immediately to improve it?

          bocchi-cry I fear going into an irl space…

          Not on here surely? Practicing ABA on your own child should be classed as a crime, fuck.

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            Yes, it was on here. In /c/neurodiverse.

            I still remember it… Got 3 upvotes last I checked, but that was months ago. Really shook me, admittedly. Maybe they just didn’t like me? Idk. I was controversial back then.

            But thanks for hearing me out!

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              Fuck, ABA defenders, on my bear website, no way.

              When you don’t get votes, when you can’t tell what people thought of your thing you said kiryu-pain It be like that sometimes…

              Ofc, no prob meow-hug

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                Yeah, I get that. I’ll try to find the upvoted comment, if you’re curious. Could’ve gotten more votes by this time…

                But yeah, I was a bit upset, though I tried to keep my emotions in check at the time. Maybe I was overreacting? But it stuck with me.

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        But thank you. And thanks for the warmth.

        I’m not trying to single out Hexbear here, despite my last comment.

        Hell, it’s better in this regard than most communist spaces, at least at times (just trying to be impartial here).

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          Yw, of course meow-hug

          Yeah I think so too, but if my comrades have concerns I wanna hear em. Just because I’m happy going on autistic screeds all the time, doesn’t mean it’s great for everyone.

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                Yeah, I’m just telling you as a fellow Autistic comrade, that’s all!

                Don’t mean to come off as “asshole-ish.”

                But I believe that Autistic people are our own culture, just like the LGBTQ+ movement, and we should invoke it, that demarcation, as it also lends some gravitas to the term and what it means.

                So, err, yeah, just giving you the heads-up!