I have a meet-and-greet no-obligations coffee date this week with a trans man, probably leading to him coming over this weekend if we hit it off in person. I’m a cis bi man, and I’ve never been with a trans man before. Obviously he and I are going to talk about mutual expectations and limits, safewords, etc. But are there any things that I should absolutely not do or say that are basically universal in the trans man experience? I want to get off on the right foot.
As a trans man to the OP: Ask as things come up, even things like how genitals are referred to and whether they’re ok to involve in sex depends on person. One universal thing is to not misgender them if they don’t explicitly want you to.