I’ll never get taller and I’ll always be “short” at 5’9".

Am I on 4chan rn

Susan, forced to accept sexual harassment from a boss due to workplace hierarchy: “aw you’re sweet! (Wish I could call hr on this fucking asshole, but they’ll just fire me because their job is to protect the boss.)”

Susan, not denied the right to complain about sexual harassment from a coworker: “hello, HR?”

I’m going to be real with you, your finances and physical appearance matter very little to all but the most shallow 5% of people. The actual barrier to relationships in these scenarios is always and unfailingly due to personality. Your self-hatred is both concerning and very visible in the way you write about yourself. You have constructed/fallen for a narrative of incel victimization which affects your personality negatively. The words you use and the way you talk about yourself are enormous red flags indicating severe self-hatred and severe depression. That is why people have little interest in spending time with you.

People don’t like incels, not because they’ve arbitrarily decided to victimize them, but because they’re miserable in a way that makes everyone around them deeply uncomfortable. Misery loves company, but nobody else wants to be miserable.

Gotta start with this one

I know it’s nobody’s fault but my own that I’m disgusting trash. I know it’s unreasonable and unrealistic to expect anyone to like me

stopped reading here.

just care about your hygiene and fitness. stop hating yourself. nothing else matters.

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Depression lies to you about yourself. It makes you think bad things about you that just aren’t true. That’s a fact. Cognitive behavioral therapy can help. For reflecting on how learned toxic masculinity hurts oneself and others, the book “The Will to Change” by Bell Hooks is a great start.

Im almost certain this is an alt account of a user who regularly makes incel posts

What a mess you people have left me with, once again. I received many reports. OP, if this is a serious post and not an alt of a bait account, feel free to message me. For now I’m closing this trash.

You could start bynot posting this incel comic in your ‘how do i be a better person’ thread

I’m not a man although I’m supposed to be. I wish I could take hormones and actually be a man, but they say my testosterone is fine. I’m not tough and my beard grows sporadically.

If you have access to health care maybe some testosterone or gender affirming care would help but quite honestly dude nothing wrong with you here. A lot of people like femme men 🤷. You don’t have to be the most popular kind of person to be someone’s favorite. There are like 8 billion people a few are bound to be into what you got going on.

**I can’t change the things that are wrong. **

1. You can change its just difficult and slow

2. Nothing is wrong with you. The system we live in just doesn’t work for some people. A great big chunk of them. It’s designed to keep your crushed and kill your self esteem. I’m sorry it’s been so effective for you. 🫂

**Fundamentally my personality is flawed. **

If you listen to nothing else I say please take this to heart. I’ve seen so many people that get themselves stuck on a negative headspace by repeating vague unprovable or disprovable things about themselves to themselves. You say your personality is flawed. What does that even mean? How do you quantify it? If it was true or not how would you measure it? Please try to think on more tangible concrete terms. Even if something negative is true thinking about it this way will help reveal how to fix it. Instead of “my personality is flawed” maybe it’s “I can’t hold someone’s interest in a conversation, or I can’t control my impulses and annoy people.” Those are both more concrete things that you can measure and improve on.

My hobbies and interests are all cringe embarrassments.

Bro everyone has embarrassing hobbies, do other people have those hobbies? (They do) Those people will make good friends. You just gotta find em.

**Everything I do is wrong. I’ve never made the right decisions and I’m not successful. **

This is another example of vague unhelpful thinking that gets you stuck in a negative loop. Cut it out. Be specific about what you don’t like. To the point you could measure it and think about how you could improve even the littlest bit.

**Everyone else is more important than me. Everyone else matters. They deserve compassion and understanding but I do not. **

According to who? Whose opinion of you matters so much to you?

I’m sure billionaire love that you and so many others feel this way. Makes you easier to exploit.

I try not to have unrealistic expectations… All the worlds an orgy, but I’m not invited.

Seems like you do have unrealistic expectations. People aren’t having nearly as much sex as you seem to think they do.

If you’re looking for sex and more direct communication go to your local bdsm club. They’re full of autistic and ADHD peeps who say exactly what they mean. You can get some action and make some friends.

**What’s the point of life when I’ll be excluded from so much of it? **

Dude have you ever had cheese steak sub? Life’s pleasure are varied and unending. Having a good time is the point. Enjoy your life😀

I am fully prepared to die during the revolution. I would die today if it would help advance our cause.

No one is asking you to die. You’d just be making us leftists even more of a minority. If you really want to do something for others then Live and push to the left whenever you can.

I think most people at one time or another feel like they’re not good enough for one reason or another, either because they feel that they’re not good looking enough, or don’t have enough money, or for any reason. It can be hard not to let the self-hatred consume you. But those are only feelings- most people who find love wouldn’t have done so if only the most beautiful and perfect people ever found it. You’re probably not nearly as unattractive as you think you are, and if you’re well-meaning and nice, then there’s probably someone out there for you.

You DO deserve compassion and understanding.

I mostly just don’t. Keep hoping something will happen eventually. I don’t want to be alone forever either.

Also 5 9 isn’t short, at least in the US. Taller then average.

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Self hatred is easier than self compassion. It’s easier to give up on yourself than to try. There’s nothing so wrong with you that you cannot practice self compassion, and there is no reason not to. Try this. We care about you and we know that you are worthy of love

One of my close friends feels like this. I think he’s pretty attractive honestly but here’s the problems he has.

He doesn’t take care of his body, he doesn’t wear clothes that fit, he doesn’t really take care of basic personal hygiene, he doesn’t really go out into his community and get to know people and hang out with them, and then despite all of this he has this expectation that the girl of his dreams is going to walk into his living room and fall in love with him. It sounds ridiculous because it is. And he knows it but then won’t go make the changes.

Meanwhile I know a lot of conventionally unattractive people who actually go out and participate in their community and take care of themselves how they are able and they’re all saturated (most of my community is polyamorous). These people just go do their thing and they feel comfortable in their clothes and they do the things they want to do and they surround themselves with others who do the same. Myself included. I look like a mutated string bean I’m surprised every day anyone can stand looking at me. But they’re not looking at my weird body they’re looking at the history of things we’ve done together and how those things have made them feel and so I’m always surrounded by my community. Looks are subjective…first impressions are real but making positive memories with people can override some conventionally negative qualities over time.

I’m not going to pretend that any of these things are easy, but I don’t know any person who actually goes out into the world and does things on a regular basis, and who showers, and who generally tries to take care of themselves, who is alone. Not one. It’s hard. But take the first step, whatever that step is. Maybe it’s something small like showering and shaving every day. Maybe it’s going to local thrift shops and finding some clothes that actually fit. Maybe it’s trying a new haircut and maintaining it. Maybe it’s finding communities around you that you like hanging out in, whatever hobbies you enjoy or things you’ve wanted to try. Take one step. And then take one more. And then take one more. And eventually you’ll be surrounded by community.