not the only “loser”. And I went to a good public school too but it feels like everyone my age just kind of crashed out. Can’t say I blame them given [gestures] everything. My old high school crush has an etsy store and makes cute little knickknacks which is nice.

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    I’m in the opposite situation. I’ve looked up all the kids I went to school now and they are all really successful. A doctor, a pharmacist, a journalist, some head buyer type thing for Marks and Spencers, a business director for a “HealthTech” industry, whatever that is, two of them have high up banking jobs.

    Then there’s me, worked as a minimum wage carer for years, now unemployed on benefits. I would never dream of going to a school reunion.

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    No one I knew ever had their shit together at all until at least 30 years old.

    I don’t bother looking up people from high school, comparison is the thief of joy.

    I also don’t have any online presence so they probably have no idea what happened to me, if anyone even cared. But I’m content enough personally. Have a loving partner and can pay my bills. Just waiting on that whole communist revolution thing to happen still…

  • I haven’t checked in a while, it’s been like 25+ years since I graduated HS.

    but last time I did, the bullies had become cops, everybody had kids and gotten divorced at least once, a couple different kinds of grifters. nobody seemed to have their shit together at all, but there were definitely a lot trying to make it seem like they did with curated profiles. but the cracks and holes were apparent.

    there were 1 or 2 that had no presence or profile online and only vague rumors about where they went. those were the closest things to success, imo. I endeavored to become one of those.

    I told family to spread the rumor that I “died during the Gulf War… fighting for the other side.” I hope it took.

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    I will absolutely never look up anyone I went to school with. but I did find out secondhand that the biggest sociopath in our class became a used car salesman, which tracks.

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    Couple people i knew are like outdoor sports mountain bike competition guys and that, to me, is the most successful you can get. Doing the thing you actually like so well that people pay you for it.

    One guy launched multiple crypto coins before meme coins were a thing and everyone always called him a manipulative sociopath behind his back so that tracks.

    Otherwise I’m only on Facebook for marketplace and muted everyone a long time ago so i don’t really see that stuff

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    I feel relatively lucky that the people I grew up with are mostly all alive, but beyond that yeah we’re all barely making it. Mid years millennial here

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    I thought I carved myself out a decent living but i think that’s all about to get horribly fucked. Middle class is no longer a comfortable tier