Hexbear started during the 2020 BLM protests, where cops were using social media and internet presence to track down activists. They are still doing this, but with less vigor than when police stations were burning down.

This included things like using tattoos on naked bodies, etsy store receipts etc.

Just before the r/cth ban, there was also a problem with chasers and general, um… Pervy men. The space was generally masc, and steps were taken to reduce thirst-posting and the like.

These things combined means that people don’t post selfies or direct identifying information. People post their pets and artwork, but I know I have to make a decision about where and when I post things to make things non-trivial for cops or random chuds. I feel like a unique pet name, breed, and rough region could be enough to track someone down.

Even so, I think I’m bad at it. I feel like if someone knew me and read everything on hexbear they could ID me pretty easily (and I know multiple people in person on hexbear, but we’ve never exchanged usernames).

Idk if there are any hard and fast rules beyond the selfies and direct ID though. I should burn this account.

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      Because these statements are ascribing “horny and disrespectful and harrassing” as an innately “masculine” behavioural trait. Do masc lesbians do this too??? More broadly though what’s the flipside of this, that “femme” is innately good and non thirsty and benevolent, so we must eradicate all “masc energy” in the space? Is this like when dunking was cishet white man behaviour?

      A little was written about it here because this type of unserious, non-intersectional ‘feminist’ thought is not an uncommon sight, but it’s very silly. It’s just doing gender essentialism again at the end of it, like “masc” seems to actually mean “male” and “femme” actually means “female”, and it’s not cool. I mean, imagine deploying gender essentialism in the apparent interest of keeping the space safe for marginalised people?

      If there’s an alternate explanation for this that doesn’t suck I’d love to hear it, sincerely, but all I see is denoting specific behaviours as innately gendered and describing one binary gender as benevolent and non-oppressive and good, and the other as violent and oppressive and bad.

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        OK, I’m not saying that’s innate. I’m saying that that’s what the environment of r/cth was and used a shorthand for it that is pretty well understood. I can change the post to reflect this if you’d like.

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          You used “masc” as a shorthand for ‘pornbrained and DM sexual harrassment’? I am being sincere when I ask: do you understand the problem with that?

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            Idk, its 2 am here and I’m trying to go to sleep, but now I have to finish this conversation.

            Yes, ok. What term should I use? You know the kind of dudebro energy I mean, I’m sure. I will change my original post

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              I’m not asking you to stay up, you can take time to respond. I’m not gonna declare war because you got sleep. Literally please go to bed instead of listening to me yap, I can wait.

              Why does unwanted forward sexual behaviour need a gender tag, though? Why should it be ascribed to a gender tag anyway? You can never, ever make the generalisation “all people of a gender do this”. Plus, “dudebro” and “masc” are not synonyms. Does this mean that transmasc users were involved too? Even just saying that cth had too much leering, disrespectful objectification would have done. I sincerely do not understand the compulsion to ascribe behaviours to entire categories of people.