So, back when I was “still cis tho”, there were a lot of aspects of male gender norms that bothered me deeply and of course I totally understand why now. Even though these days I obviously have a clear reason for feeling that way, I’m still curious if cishet men also have issues with how norms or expectations around gender and sexuality impact them in a negative way.
I’d love to hear your thoughts on how those norms impact you, whether good or bad.
Also, I should mention that since this is a bit of a sensitive subject we’re talking about here, please be thoughtful and sensitive when discussing with others in this thread. Thanks! <3
EDIT: Much thanks for all the great responses here! I know it’s a difficult topic of course, so I appreciate you sharing your thoughts/feelings like this.
Speaking of which… I just looked at /c/menby and some of the posts on the front page there are over 2 years old. I see a lot of the discussion here centered around not being able to share feelings and/or not having the spaces or support to do that in. /c/menby seems like the perfect place for that, just sayin’.
I’m gonna recommend you stop dating cishet women. I’m seeing a lot of heteronormative brainworms in the women you’ve described that are causing you distress. There’s nothing wrong with you. There are plenty of people who don’t just want to fuck all the time. Queer people will not treat you like this.
Some queer people will, speaking from experience.
Yeah, not everyone’s great but my queer dating experiences have been majority positive, even if we don’t end up working out. People are generally much more open and vulnerable than cishets
For sure