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  • Infamousblt [any]@hexbear.net
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    1 year ago

    It’s not even that bad. I called out someone this morning for misgendering my partner and they went whoops my bad not sure why I even did that. And everything is fine now. Make a mistake, be called out on it, admit your mistake, learn from it, and everything is totally fine. Shit happens nobody is perfect and nobody is expecting perfection.

    Where the real dog piling happens is when someone makes a mistake, is called out on it, and doesn’t have the humility to admit they made a mistake. The double and triple down occurs and that’s when the dunking truly begins.

    So basically anyone complaining that Hexbears make them scared are just racist/sexist/ablest/you name it ist and refuses to try not to be those things. We’re totally chill if folks want to try to be better people and are willing to actually try

    • JuneFall [none/use name]@hexbear.net
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      Having grown up in a white household that was becoming middle class with two parents who were pretty poor the academic success and thus negation of identity was quite important. Faults were not addressed, but ignored with neighbors but also within the family, status was to be kept up. So call outs were seen not as only attack against personhood but self itself.

      • Infamousblt [any]@hexbear.net
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        1 year ago

        Oh yeah, this is how my family is too. They’ll say some asinine shit and the second you call them out about it they shut it down because “well you’re being POLITICAL and we just won’t agree on that so we shouldn’t talk about it.” It’s ridiculous and one of the reasons I don’t talk to my family much anymore

        • DroneRights [it/its]@hexbear.net
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          Politics is when minorities demand rights, and the less rights they already have, the more political it is. And if it’s a minority I haven’t heard of, that’s trolling.

    • BelieveRevolt [he/him]@hexbear.net
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      When your native language doesn’t have gendered pronouns and you’re afraid of misgendering by accident due to subconsciously defaulting to ”he” in English: meow-knit