“Why don’t you want to come to my wedding?”
“I want to come but I can’t afford a ticket overseas.”
“Whatever, if you want to stay home and miss out on life that’s your decision I guess.”
Apparently me saying no to this wedding was the last straw for them, because they’re always asking me to do things I can’t afford and they don’t seem to understand why I can’t despite me telling them every time that I am poor. So now I’m the bad person because I’m totally being poor and “holding myself back” on purpose.
If they want to burn this bridge they can fuck right off. I’ve had enough of this shit.
This is the classic coping mechanism of wealthier people (and others emulating / sucking up to them).
They have to regard being poor as a choice, or otherwise face that their own wealth is unearned and it’s morally wrong that they have it while others don’t. To them “I can’t afford it” is synonymous with “I don’t want to” because thinking otherwise destroys their world view.
If they’re not solidly bourgeoisie, it also requires facing the terrifying fact that they’re probably only a few strokes of bad luck from ending up in the same place.
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