I (white dude) dated a black woman for a while about 10 years ago. For a while I didn’t notice anything as we shared the same group of friends and it was chill. It wasn’t until we got closer and started going out in public together by ourselves that it was really hammered home.
Typically what would happen is a white person would try to pull me aside, or a black person her, and “politely” (I’m using this sarcastically) try to tell us what we were doing wasn’t right or some other even less polite racist nonsense. The first time it happened I about lost my mind, and she just pulled me out of the situation and just hit me with a face. After a few rounds of that anytime anyone randomly came up to me and said “hey can I talk to you for a sec” I would just give them a “FUCK OFF” or we’d both just laugh in their face and walk away.
God that sounds so tiring. We thankfully haven’t experienced any of that but there is a weird tension around a certain group of men who see her as their race even though they’re way off. Not trying to get too specific though.
I (white dude) dated a black woman for a while about 10 years ago. For a while I didn’t notice anything as we shared the same group of friends and it was chill. It wasn’t until we got closer and started going out in public together by ourselves that it was really hammered home.
Typically what would happen is a white person would try to pull me aside, or a black person her, and “politely” (I’m using this sarcastically) try to tell us what we were doing wasn’t right or some other even less polite racist nonsense. The first time it happened I about lost my mind, and she just pulled me out of the situation and just hit me with a
face. After a few rounds of that anytime anyone randomly came up to me and said “hey can I talk to you for a sec” I would just give them a “FUCK OFF” or we’d both just laugh in their face and walk away.
God that sounds so tiring. We thankfully haven’t experienced any of that but there is a weird tension around a certain group of men who see her as their race even though they’re way off. Not trying to get too specific though.