Hello users of hexbear:

Due to recent meta posts in our mutual aid community we wanted to open up discussion about the community [email protected]

We will never require explanation or justification from a user asking for aid in the community, and the mod and admin team continue to commit to not featuring an individual’s mutual aid request to prevent unfair exposure.

In addition, we will maintain a strict “No critical comments or meta comments” on a mutual aid post.

This post is to discuss the mutual aid community’s rule of allowing meta posts: mutual aid as a community, those making posts in it and those commenting on posts.

We are considering removing the exception allowing meta posts but wanted to involve the userbase before committing to a change.

Please comment with any thoughts, feelings, or suggestions regarding this change.

Thank you

  • Kolibri [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
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    15 hours ago

    I think I’m probably just going to burn this account since I don’t like how this keeps persisting, and I feel like I do owe it to you to not be silent. Since it feels like I caused this mess. I’m sorry for not saying anything earlier.

    For anyone else I was the one who gave her the 4,000$. It was from what wasn’t taken by the hospital when my mom died and things were sold off. I don’t have any of what I got from my mom anymore since I gave to others here and elsewhere, but I just wanted to say. It really distasteful and also how to word this. Some of you are doing more than just attacking her and still bringing this up, but also I think genuinely harming things as a whole.

    I believe her and trust her that she didn’t spend it all on drugs, and besides that she did use it on her needs and to help herself. and I remember she also used it to help others to in her community, which is really amazing considering her situation to sacrifice like that as well. I also gave her that money all upfront since I didn’t want to make her jump through hoops or like make her go through others when she legit needed it more than I did and I still stand by that. And I don’t regret giving it to her.

    But it is pretty reactionary and fucked up how a good amount of you immediately go to just blaming her just because of addiction. And it interesting a lot of you are getting mad at her, like I could get mad as that was my 4,000$ but I didn’t. If I’m not mad at her for that, none of you should be either no? Like just let it go, besides it was between me and her, not the rest of you. Like some of you can fuck off for giving indignation. I also gave that much because legit like how is someone suppose to get out of being a situation like she in, if all people do is constantly just give band aids to a bleeding wound?

    I dunno, honestly seeing of this stuff just depressing and disappointing. I feel like I just made things worse to be honest.