The best bit is that we can’t even see it lmao

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    Yeah, iirc in the early days of this site existing transphobes used to stalk this site and try to dox openly trans users but then our mod team basically went extremely hard line on any perceived transphobia with trigger fingers on the banhammer that even the 1919 Cheka would have considered itchy; although a few good faith users were accidentally banned along the way it did solve our transphobia problem and now we’re pretty decidedly a safe space - post federation the most common reason by a long way I’ve seen for new users making an account here is them being queer people who like our militantly anti queerphobia community and moderator’s (on the flipside I joined back when I thought I was a cishet guy, and then I realised along the way that I’m actually a bisexual trans girl)

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      Gotcha. Well, I’m neither, and I still support this stance. No one should be abused this way. I honestly don’t understand why people just can’t be good humans. I mean, how hard is it to just respect other people?

      What is cishet?

      • cis is cisgender, basically they haven’t got a queergender, transgender, or agender identity. (idk if I explained that well please correct me if not)

        Hetero is just being straight.

        cishet is the smushing of those two words together

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          Oh, it’s pronounced sis-het, not si-shet. Ok cool. What does cis stand for? I though it and hetero were the same, until this very moment.

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            cis means ‘this side of’, in the context of gender this means they’re comfortable enough with the gender they were assigned at birth.

            trans is ‘that side of’, in the context of gender this means they’re uncomfortable with the gender they were assigned at birth

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              Ok, so what’s the difference between cis and hetero?

              I’m so sorry for the daft questions. I’m learning…

              E: I don’t like the word ‘straight’, since it assumes non-heteros are somehow not straight (IE, untrustworthy or shady). I hate that connotation.

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                so cis (in this instance) pertains to gender, whereas hetero is with regard to sexuality. cis/trans (what you are) vs homo/hetero (what you’re attracted to)

                No daft questions! We’re all peers here :)

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                  I think I understand… So, a cis person can be attracted to either the same gender (homo) or the opposite gender (hetero) or both genders (bi), but attributes herself/himself to her/his birth-gender… right? Or am I still confused? Haha

                  Is cis and acronym?

                  No daft questions! We’re all peers here :)

                  <3 thank you so much!! I’ve never had a safe place to ask these questions before, so I’ve been (knowingly) going around for at least a decade with these misunderstandings. I really appreciate you and the time you’re putting into helping me understand!

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                    cis I think comes from the alps or something, cis/trans-alpine. It’s also used in chemistry to determine the handedness of particular isomers (I think). It’s a prefix, not an acronym, in any case.
                    Unless you listen to TERFs (which is an acronym, 'trans-exclusionary radical feminist), who’ll tell you it stands for Cis Is a Slur lol

                    In your example yeah you got it right, cis/trans refers to a gender signifier, whereas homo/hetero is a sexuality signifier. They’re similar prefixes with different applications

                    And then there’s me who’s just… queer I guess, the more I think about it the more confused I get, be gay do crime and learn to love yourself