I’m not sure I should start this conversation and I’ve been rewriting this a lot lol. But I could use some relating and opinions from fellow internet leftists
Ok so, to keep it really simple: I happened to share a meal with somebody I really liked. I have interacted casually (no flirting) for about a dozen minutes total and we exchanged contact because of shared-interests (not dating)
Now my brain is fried
I’m thinking about her way too much and it gives be bad vibes, she probably has no idea and I can’t imagine the sheer horror of realising that someone is thinking this much about you after so little interaction.
I want to be a well-behaved straight (kinda bi but that’s beyond the point) guy, I’m trying to be an ally to the feminist cause, so, failing this spectacularly at behaving normally in relation to women disgust me. I know I can’t remove the patriarchy from my body but I damn wish I could.
You have a simple crush on someone and all you can think about is the feminist cause? We can’t just like people that exist no more?
Literally every person with an attraction to someone is gonna act like this, it’s 100% human and normal and it’s actually depressing that we have to look for validation just for that nowadays. This fucking world sucks ass
I think about feminism when I interact with women and I think it’s pretty basic decency
You can be decent without needing to scrutinize every thought you have about women, it’s a slippery slope towards self hatred just for having thoughts.
I’m nonbinary, women are just human beings like me so that’s how I treat them. It doesn’t need to be that deep
It’s genuinely a sign of the ‘feminist cause’ not going far enough, we still think of men feeling genuine romantic infatuation as a sign of weakness. bell hooks was right
Yeah, this certainly feels like some sort of overcorrection to being in a patriarchal society, to the point that having feelings is a thought crime or something smh