Body positivity is such a strange concept to me. There’s efforts to reclaim words while simultaneously calling them bad if used as an insult. Ideally, people wouldn’t be offended by someone describing their body with common descriptors, but socially there is so much value attributed to certain body types that it’s almost impossible to avoid having an emotional response of some kind to various descriptors.

For example, It’s not bad to be fat, but calling someone “fat” is almost universally considered a bad thing. The same definitely seems to go for the idea of being “short.”

I’m asking this question because I can’t put my finger on why but something seems to be different about the use of the term “short” from the use of the term “fat.” I think that part of it is how, to me at least, the term “fat” is so generic and hard to nail down to a discrete definition, implying that the word really doesn’t have a clear connection to reality. On the other hand, height is a single-dimensional number. You either are above a certain threshold, or you aren’t.

I recently learned that May 6th to May 10th is “short king week” because it’s 5’6" to 5’10" which then prompted me to search for the origins of “short king” and apparently the person most-credited with popularizing the term is Jaboukie Young-White who claims the term was meant to include all men under 6 feet tall. The average adult male height is 5’9" leaving men considered roughly average to be called “short” which is still considered an insult by many.

I dunno. As a term that was intended to champion body positivity compared with how the term is actually used, what do you think of “short king?”

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    Do I need to repeat myself for a 3rd time? Do you not realize that “ashamed” is the adjective form of “shame”?

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      Wow. You’re really stuck on not engaging in this conversation. You can lie to yourself all you want and pretend you’re somehow more virtuous than everyone else. I’m not taking the bait.

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        I’m frankly not even clear what the conversation is that you’re trying to have. You claim, “I’m not saying we should shame people” and then go on to once again declare that “if people feel ashamed they’ll lose weight”. So which is it, is shame helpful as a weightloss tool or not? Spoiler alert: it’s not.

        To me it honestly seems like you accidentally triple downed on an objectively bad position and are trying to buzzword your way out of it with accusations of virtue signaling and trolling.

        Just take the L and move on dude.

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          I don’t know if you’re trolling me or you genuinely don’t understand words.

          To shame someone is entirely different than to feel ashamed of yourself. If you kick a dog, you should feel ashamed of yourself without someone shaming you. If you forgo a healthy weight or lifestyle in favor of overconsumption and ignorance, you should feel ashamed of yourself without someone shaming you. Someone informing you that you are overweight is not the same as them shaming you.

          I swear, people are so hell bent on virtue signaling that they lose all sense of reality.

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            To shame someone is entirely different than to feel ashamed of yourself.

            Is it? The end result is a feeling of shame. And that feeling of shame, doesn’t make people lose weight. I’ve now said it for the 4th time. But yeah, I’m the one that doesn’t understand words.

            If you kick a dog, you should feel ashamed of yourself without someone shaming you. If you forgo a healthy weight or lifestyle in favor of overconsumption and ignorance, you should feel ashamed of yourself without someone shaming you.

            I see, so it’s a moral failing of someone to be fat? Akin to kicking a dog? Wild take.

            In the end, you’re right. I’m not interested in having this conversation. Because this isn’t a conversation about making people healthier, it’s a moral conversation. And I don’t think someone is immoral for having an eating disorder just as I don’t think someone is immoral for having cancer.

            If you would like to discuss actionable, material ways to help people I’m all in. If you want to larp as a televangelist screeching about the evils of being fat, I’m out.

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              LOL. You’re just arguing with yourself and your own made up conversation at this point. You don’t have to answer but I am curious if you’re an adult.

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                Literally quoting you lol.

                I’m old enough to remember “asl?”. Why do you ask about my age, looking for an easy way to dismiss me?

                Out of curiosity, are you religious?