Artist and advocate from Ōtautahi, Aotearoa.

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  • jennifilm@beehaw.orgMtoLGBTQ+@beehaw.org*Permanently Deleted*
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    11 months ago

    This is really interesting to read, thank you! I work in medical education, specifically around gender diversity - so knew a lot of this but not the detail you’ve shared here, so thanks!

    Practically speaking - the questions OP mentioned doctors asked are also just the best ways to provide the best care we can. So often we use the sex marker on someone’s file as a shortcut to the kind of care they need, but there are obviously so many exceptions to those rules, and not just for trans and non-binary folks. One of the biggest questions I get asked is about differing care and needs based on sex, and it’s actually so easy - just treat the person in front of you like a whole, individual person, rather than a sex maker on a file.


  • jennifilm@beehaw.orgtoSocialism@beehaw.orgAgainst Masculinity
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    11 months ago

    I think it’s less to do with the traits themselves and more to do with the person and how they’re perceived. As other people have said - people get more of a significant impact from role models they can identify with or look like them. There’s so much room for role models of all types, but if we’re thinking about masculinity specifically, so many young men and boys only have masculine folk in their lives who, for example, don’t share their emotions - and this pattern affirms the idea that it’s not ‘manly’ to be vulnerable.

    More people who express themselves in a ‘masculine’ way modeling these positive traits show other people with similar identities and expressions that it’s possible (and good) for them to do it, too.


  • jennifilm@beehaw.orgMtoLGBTQ+@beehaw.orgStealth Advice
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    11 months ago

    This is great advice! I also think there’s a huge difference in being stealth by choice and stealth by necessity. Making an active choice in this can be great for your wellbeing - the difference between feeling empowered to do this and being required to do it.

    I’d recommend being open to letting trusted people in - one of the biggest struggles of going stealth is the isolation and worry about being outed, and having even one person you can share about this with will make the world of difference.




  • I’ve been using it for the last week and really enjoy it - I’m on an m1 air and asahi is so much snappier than macOS, which is saying something because it still sings!

    There’s a few key hardware features still missing - mic, speaker, and the thunderbolt port (so hdmi and external displays) that are preventing me from driving it fully because I do a lot of presentations at work, but it’s quick enough to boot into mac when I need to.

    Occasionally there’s something that doesn’t want to run on arm architecture, but there’s usually an alternative - and it sounds like 4k paging is close.

    Give it a shot! I’m invested cos I wanna hear more people’s take on it 😅









  • This is such a strange read - the article starts by talking about how Gen Z are prioritising wellbeing over wealth (true and so important to talk about) but then just totally rags on them for having no motivation and ‘delusional’ thinking? It touches so briefly on how the norms and expectations previous generations had are now absolutely inaccessible for so many, then criticises them for ‘manifestation’ and not just trying?

    This is so worth talking about but I think a much more useful and interesting analysis would be looking at why manifestation is on the rise, and why so much focus is on wellbeing over wealth - and how exactly traditional goals like home ownership and retirement became so out of reach. But that would require more than just name-dropping late stage capitalism and actually acknowledging its failures though, huh?



  • The issue isn’t that the majority of people are straight (though I’d point to what we saw in the rates of left handedness once we stopped punishing it), it’s how we talk about it and the assumptions we make - and it’s about the disparities LGBTQIA+ people can face because of the specifically heteronormative way society is set up.

    Marriage equality is a great easy example - the reason marriage equality was (and is, in so many places) such a big deal wasn’t just so we could marry just like heterosexuals - it’s because there are so many rights afforded to married couples that aren’t afforded to others. Healthcare access is the big one - in so many places, only married spouses are considered ‘family’ and able to make decisions for their partner, or even visit them in hospital.

    To use your analogy, it would be like there not being any metal concerts, ever, because everyone just likes pop, right? Why would anyone want to go to a metal gig?