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Cake day: July 1st, 2021

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  • Of course. He’s not genetically evil. Essentialism is bad. He grew up in the most cold hearted, disgusting, bourgeois circumstances at the heart of capital and just kept going with it.

    It’s in fact another damning argument against capitalism and patriarchy. It produces evil in people as a byproduct.



  • I just want to stop feeling so bad but i know it’s because i still haven’t properly moved on. It doesn’t help that they told me there was a possibility of rekindling it but i know that’s not the right choice for either of us and I really don’t want a FWB type situation either.

    The fact that you don’t give in to this, is a great sign of moving on. You’re not blinded by desire or false hope. Your brain understands and your heart will follow. It’s just a little more inert.

    There’s always something that reminds me of them every day whether it be a bench we sat on, a gift, song, food, etc you get the idea.

    The biggest cry I had after a breakup was a month after I she left me. I was walking home at night and something reminded me of us walking the same way and I just stopped and cried sitting on a wall for 30 minutes or so. It hurt so much but now I know, that this was pure catharsis. I’ve tried to fight the sadness, “get over it”, move on, not feel bad anymore. But what I needed was to bawl my eyes out until they burnt with snot spread all over my jacket. And when I was done I was okay.

    Embrace it. You’re alive and you loved and this what you get for that. It will pass, no matter what you do, but until then it’s yours.

    The only real advice i got is to listen to your favorite sad songs a lot and to take an hour long shower until your brain had dissolved in the mist and your skin is almost peeling off.

    meow-hug


  • From the boring point of view of an office worker, who worked in a yellow office with furniture that was older than me…

    The renovation of my office was a truly appreciated. Ergonomic tables and chairs, new carpet, actual white walls and getting rid of 80% of the old file cabinets make life so much nicer. I put up a union poster, a painting, two plants and i do not miss the yellow plastic stains one bit.


  • Disco Elysium took me three tries over three years to finish. I always knew I liked it, but I had to find the right moment in time for it to grip me. The music, the vibe, the art… But soo much reading.

    Same with Dark Souls, same with Outer Wilds. All three are now among my favourite games of all time.

    If it’s not for you, it’s perfectly fine. But some pieces of art are good because they are not the instant dopamine delivery method. I played vampire survivors for like 6 hours straight and never touched it again. I’ll always think about Harry and Kim.

    And yes, if you have ADHD, give it a try medicated. We always chase the dopamine and that sometimes blinds us to slower paced, more rewarding joy.






  • It’s very unfortunate that alcohol is such an extremely simple molecule that is just intrinsically connected to carbohydrates. It just happens. Monkeys get drunk of fermenting fruits lying around. Boil potatoes, let them stand around until it smells funky and you’re already half the way to vodka. Even if you eliminated all remembrance of alcohol, some dude would drink a bottle of grape juice that was a little too long in the sun and enjoy the feeling it gives him.

    Addiction often stems from the circumstances in your life. It comes from desperation, suffering, needing to forget or to feel something, the need to distract, to numb or the desire to fit in. It comes from poverty, isolation and the lack of a future, for which it would be worth being sober for.

    Capitalism enables and enhances all these feelings and makes this drug so extremely available at the same time. It remains the true enemy and is again at the core of our suffering. Alcohol will undoubtedly remain a problem in any society, but in ours it is a scourge.






  • The stock indices have reached new records after every single crash . Because capitalism must grow. Line must go up. Because if line go down, the whole promise of return of investment goes out of the window and the thing collapses. Any money you put in the market as a whole (ETFs), will be worth more in the future than it is now. But it has to be money that you don’t need to rely on in the next 15-20 years, so it’s exclusively for people who are rich already.

    Everything else, like picking a single stock like those GameStop idiots, is just straight up gambling. Betting on horse racing is equally as productive.






  • I think it’s a genre that was incredibly locked into it’s time. The sound, the vibe, the aesthetics all coagulated into this peak Y2K moment, where it looked like it’s the future… And then basically it was a musical blip, apart from a few bangers and Linkin Park as one the most successful bands of all time. Is there even a (known) band in last ten years that would call what they make “nu metal”? Even Linkin Parks music sounded nothing like their early stuff after 2007 or so.