I might not be the best one to reply, but that “we’re a family” shit irritates me.

“If we’re a big family here, then you, and my coworkers, need to accept me as I am. This is who I am, this is how much I smile, and this is how much I socialize. Please, we my family, accept that.”

That’s really interesting! In the us, I lived extremely rural, without running water or electricity for several years. If we needed to do anything, we had to crank up a generator and use shitty satellite Internet in the beginning. After a while we got a few small/cheap solar panels and a couple car batteries we ran stuff off of.

Your message is just showing blank for me :/

There have been nights when I definitely would have preferred indeterminately many genitalia, but to be honest, on a few occasions, one genetalius would have been preferable. Sometimes there are just too many verpi and not enough gurgustia.

I’m not sure I’ve ever seen “genital” in the singular before, and now I’m trying to determine what qualifies as a singular genital and not the whole set of genitals.

For what it’s worth, I’ve also noticed the same thing where I live in Tennessee. Smoked for 21 years (from 11 to 32), and while there are still a ton of smokers in my little hick town, it’s much less than before.

I’m curious, how does that work for people from remote villages? India still have a pretty large population who live traditional lifestyles with limited access to the Internet, don’t y’all? Do they have the option of more traditional paper documents, or do they have to find a computer somewhere to use for certain things?

That’s my favorite Charlemagne quote

The small goals part isn’t about setting goals you currently need in addition to what you’re already doing. It’s about setting goals you know you can reach with minimal or no effort. By doing that, you create a pattern of “winning,” of achieving. It can help translate into other areas by tricking your brain into wanting to set more and more goals.

And career specifically is a tough one. Hygiene and food and shelter is all natural to us, but going out and working in an office or for a boss isn’t the natural state of the human animal. It’s something cultural we created for ourselves, and as such it can be a harder area to push yourself into in a lot of ways. It takes a different part of the brain, y’know?

Depression’s a helluva drug, and it can make everything seem terribly difficult, but when it finds one area to really fuck you in, it can be so horrible to find any motivation. Especially in those areas that are outside of our evolutionary instincts. Have you considered speaking with a professional about medication? The meditation and the gamifying and such have helped me some, at the advice of a shrink, but medication is what got me through my early 20s. I’d be dead today without it.

Don’t sabotage Slef. He’s a good dude, who’s had a hard life.

In all seriousness, though, I’d love an answer to this as well. It’s hard once you find yourself in a cycle of procrastination. You get used to allowing yourself to put things off, and it makes it harder to get back into the habit of doing them right when you should.

A few things that help me:

Do it right now. Remember that you left that important thing in the car? Haul your ass out there and get it now, because it gets trampled under foot and lost. Eat a bowl of cereal? Wash the bowl now, not later. Later doesn’t ever get here. There’s always more later when you think later is going to be.

Meditation. Try it. If nothing else, you get a nice little break from whatever your normal routine is, which in itself can help you shake things up. 5 minutes of deep breathing and focus can do wonders. I’m not great at meditating, and sometimes I wonder if I’m even actually doing it, but 5 minutes of breathing is better than not doing 5 minutes of breathing.

Set really small goals. Like, ridiculously sillily small goals. Goals you’d set for a small child. It will feel silly, and childish, and you maybe will feel embarrassed about it, but “I will brush my teeth” or “I will clean that dish” or “I will wash my face”

They’re things you’re going to do anyway, but turning them into a goal gives you a sense of accomplishment, and allows you to get into a habit of completing goals. Gradually increase the goals, and gamify life. It makes you feel accomplished, gives you a sense of progression, and helps to set a pattern you can use going forward.

I hope these things help, or that you find something that does.

Quacks within quacks, moving in any of the four directions!

Lemmy rocks, and these are totally getting saved

“Quack not afraid!”

Love it, thank you!

Can someone with way more talent than me do this as a biblically accurate duck?

I’ve been making overnight oats with chia seeds. Oats, oat milk, chia seeds, a little sugar. Stick it in the fridge for 2-12 hours. Chop up some bananas, blueberries, strawberries, really whatever fruit you want. Add sunflower seeds or some ground up pistachios and a bit of Greek yogurt. It’s so freaking good, and so fast, and I can grab it whenever and eat while I study

I never fully appreciated how sexual that song was until hearing it sung by children’s characters just now. I’m deeply uncomfortable.

It’s [a song](Bette Davis Eyes https://g.co/kgs/BK7y7F8) that’s referencing two silver screen era actresses. Garbo was famous for her standoffishness and an iconic sigh, and Bette had these incredible, large eyes.

If you’ve never seen a Bette (pronounced Betty) Davis movie, she was absolutely fucking fierce. Seriously, she could be a rapid dog in a ballgown when she wanted to be, but she could also play demure, shrinking violets when she needed to. She had a bit fued with Joan Crawford. She only ever made one movie with her (Whatever Happened to Baby Jane), but my favorite movie of her’s is Hush Hush, Sweet Charlotte, and I highly, highly recommend literally every human check that one out.

I’m a bit of a Bette stan

Freya! Who fell asleep while playing.

That sounds exactly like the name of a Norse tale partially Christianized by Snori Sturluson. Freyja is enjoying her time with the Aesir, but one day she falls asleep while playing a game with Loki, who is so taken aback at her beauty while she sleeps peacefully among the Heather that he hires several svartalfar to create a bronze statue of her beauty, but the svartalf are so good in their craft that Loki falls in love with the statue, tricks Odin into breathing life into it, and marries it, but it goes mad knowing it is a construct, and takes over Freyja’s life, and eventually they come to an agreement where they trade places once every 100 years, and no one knows who the original is to this day

Oh I know they do great on some (most?) of their consoles, but I still think they do better at actual games than they do at consoles. Also, aren’t consoles almost always money losers, anyway? Like, they take a hit so that they can sell more games, which actually make them the money? Or is Nintendo the exception to that rule or thumb?

I know it’s not happening, but I’d love it if Nintendo went the way of Sega, and just made games. They’ve always been hit and miss with their consoles anyway, it’s the games people love. Just fuck it, start releasing games for multiple platforms and focus on what you’re actually fucking good. Pipe dream, I know

I have met these people. I am related to these people. Op might not be real, but for a fact there are people who genuinely believe this shit. It’s so incredibly frustrating to know they are so close to understanding, but so very, very far ever believing the explanation