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Cake day: June 26th, 2023

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  • I loved how they handled the concept of a feminine hero in the sequel.

    Ripley is the hero, but there’s also Vasquez - the badass marine. Vasquez is what so many people tried to do to make women heroic in action films.

    She’s just an action hero that happens to be a woman. And she’s great. But her character isn’t classically “feminine.”

    Meanwhile Ripley is all woman. Her iconic badass moment (“Get away from her you bitch!”) is the action climax of the film, and its also when she’s being her most feminine. Her heroism didn’t carry an asterisk saying she’s a badass despite her sex.

    She’s not sexy, not vulnerable, not emulating a stereotypical man’s role in combat. She’s all-woman and all-badass.



  • I hold a weekly project review/coordination meeting via Teams where we discuss all our project statuses, due dates, etc with the relevant team members, make new assignments, etc. And while our new offices are being built I’m exiled to the conference room instead of my desk so that my talking doesn’t annoy people who aren’t in the meeting.

    Everything is being tracked on a spreadsheet, and I’m sharing my screen while updating everything and I’m having to live-type in front of 20 people and my shitty laptop keyboard.

    It’s the worst.









  • Lots of things like grey hair, moving more slowly, injuries that I would have bounced away from before instead hurting for weeks or months.

    But the one that hit hardest was a breakup I had a little while back. She was the love of my life and I fully intended to marry her, and when she ended it out of nowhere I was sad, but fine. She dumped me, and it sucked, but I also needed to finish a staff report for a Planning and Zoning Commission meeting that night. So I moved on.

    The thing that upset me most was that I wasn’t that upset. There was a time in my life when I would have been a mess. But as I’ve aged, my emotions have become more regulated.

    I miss being capable of that level of joy and pain.


  • Don’t forget getting the interview.

    I’ve got the right column on lock. I’ve never had an interview that wasn’t followed by an offer. But I was still stuck in a dead-end job for years trying to get an interview.

    Once I finally got an interview adjacent to my field, I was promoted within 6 months, then poached by another organization a year after that and had quadrupled my income in under 2 years.

    But it took forever to get that process started.