As a trans man, this is the guide I would have killed to have 10 years ago. I respectfully disagree with your take.
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I don’t care how many times people explain to me that “kill all men” doesn’t actually mean kill all men. It still hurts. Ever since I transitioned, I’ve noticed the casual misandry thrown about everywhere like it’s not a big deal, but it’s a big deal to me. “All men are trash” includes me.
I’ve always had an issue with the idea that generalizations are okay. If “all men are trash” actually means “the patriarchy is trash”, just say that. I understand a lot of it as simply venting, but it’s almost never constructive or helpful, and it certainly isn’t fun to hear as a trans dude. Hell, part of the reason it took so long for me to accept myself as a man is because of this kind of rhetoric.
I hope it gets better, because it does feel very alienating whenever I encounter it. I want to be a part of queer spaces, but it’s hard when you feel hated.
All the David Cage sbfp let’s plays are fuckin gold. I don’t watch playthroughs anymore but I will go back and watch those every now and then
28·1 year agoCorrect me if I’m wrong, but I thought the big risk with AI is its use as a disinfo tool. Skynet ain’t no where near close, but a complete post truth world is possible. It’s already bad now… Could you imagine AI generated recordings of crimes that are used as evidence against people? There are already scam callers that use recordings to make people think theyve kidnapped relatives.
I really feel like most people aren’t afraid of the right things when it comes to AI.
I just scrolled through to see if anyone shouted out Mark of the Ninja. I hate stealth games, but absolutely loved that one.
I always really appreciate the effort y’all put into clarifying how you want this community to be run or actions y’all are taking. I wanna say that I really enjoy the feeling I get here: that people typically are good faith and see the human on the other side. Being a mod or admin and trying to exemplify the community you hope to foster has to be incredibly exhausting. That being said, the effort is noticeable, and I’m really thankful for y’all’s passion for this project of beeing nice :)
The problem from my point of view is people not spaying/neutering cats, and then inevitably a feral population will show up. Many cats can have a litter at 6 months old. I’ve personally watched generations of cats grow outside my workplace.
It’s a huge problem. All the local shelters are beyond max capacity JUST FROM CATS. Feral cats explode in population, and the only real way to get populations under control is more Trap-Neuter-Return programs along with educating cat owners on why they absolutely must spay/neuter. There is no excuse not to.
Yeah, my experience was essentially the same: self loathing turned outwards. I wonder just how many trans folk are former transphobes…
In defense of the tumblr gender… everything. I didn’t really know that trans people existed until the “discourse”. To be fair, I was a pretty sheltered kid, but like… I had no idea it was even an option. At the time I did think it was “stupid” and had a short anti-sjw phase spurred on by r/TumblrInAction, but at the end of the day I became aware that trans people existed mostly because of kids on the internet and their genders. So thanks tumblr.
2·1 year agoI’m also in east Tennessee and have been brainstorming an exit plan in a worst case scenario. It sucks because I really do love it here.
As far as trans rights go, the US is a lot better than a lot of countries just because we have informed consent. I was actually looking into what countries are good for trans folks and the list is shorter than you’d think. Honestly, if we fight it out here, I think the US could become one of the best places to be trans in.
But yeah… With what’s happening with Vanderbilt, it’s probably a good idea get an exit plan at the very least
Huh. It actually runs fine for me on android and firefox. I did the thing though where you can download a website as an app:
https://support.mozilla.org/en-US/kb/use-web-apps-firefox-android
If they’re your best friend, they should be able to listen to you.
I used to have many shit opinions, and it took a lot of friends and a lot of conversations for me to change. It’s hard. But it’s thanks to them that I get to step into the best version of myself and be able to give back… Just know you are in a unique position to maybe get through to them, if they’re willing to listen.
That being said… I’m so sorry. I’ve lost close family to bigotry and it sucks. It’s the betrayal that’s the worst part. It’s like… I know you aren’t like this, so how did you get this way? Just sucks
3·1 year agoUN peacekeepers famously did not get involved when the Serbs massacred Bosnian Muslims in Srebrenica in their own “safe zones”. I don’t know if there are counter examples since then that demonstrate peacekeepers actually keeping peace, but that was the worst situation imaginable, and they still didn’t get involved and just let it happen.
Depression is a bitch. Most important thing is to try to stay ahead and keep ahead of it. Pick yourself back up every time, and it starts getting easier.
For me, I almost get an immediate sense that it’s starting to creep in, kind of like getting flashes before a migraine. I get to brace for impact. I think if it sneaks up on you like that, it may be a good idea to try to journal, just so you can maybe get a better sense of your daily moods and perhaps notice if there are any triggers that cause depressive episodes.
This is incredible. I hope they get married.
18·1 year agoI see a lot of people quick to hate on PHP while not really knowing anything about it’s modern usage… but the thing I think of most is how people praise Lemmy for using Rust and diss Kbin for using PHP, but at the end of the day it’s HOW those tools are used that determines the quality of something. Language changes, but fundamentals stay the same, and in the end all anyone should care about is whether or not something works.
Programming language wars have always seemed a tad shallow to me.
I agree. But, for the sake of just exploring the thought process… IF the idea of trans women absolutely dominating cis women in sports were accurate (which does not seem to be the case), it would be something to discuss from a good faith perspective. Should we pivot to weight classes? Should there be a trans lady league? How do nonbinary folks fit in to this whole thing? Sports are inherently unfair, but that doesn’t mean there’s no room to talk about how we want sports to be.
It’s really exhausting when every aspect of your life as a trans person has become politicized, because there are differences between cis and trans people generally, and they are worth talking about. Maybe one day discussions can be had that aren’t simply thinly veiled transphobic talking points.
A WGU computer science degree costs about 3800 per six month period, btw, which is a decent option. I’m with you on avoiding a typical expensive college degree, though. I would personally recommend considering WGU after getting some experience so you can get through it faster (since it’s self paced).
Even if there were a “biological advantage” the only reason people started to pretend to care about women’s sports is because it’s a way to alienate trans people. If there were a good faith discussion being had, it wouldnt be so infuriating.
I hope that something good comes from all this in the end.
I just meant when I was younger I would have killed for it. I never came across it unfortunately.