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Cake day: June 14th, 2023

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  • as a 5’7 person, I can’t control my height. Therefore, it isn’t something that I should feel bad about. it’s the same way I feel about the color of my skin or any other physical or mental things I have going on that are 100% out of my control. it’s a difficult way to address my shortcomings (pun intended), but once you start just accepting these are things that cant be control, you start feeling better about yourself. I’ve cut out a lot of people in my life that made me feel bad about uncontrollable things, and it’s made me a much better person. I’m still on that journey to improve every day, too; it’ll never stop

    I think the trap many people fall into is getting caught up and comparing themselves to other people. I can’t imagine if I woke up every day and compared myself to some of the wealthiest people in the world… I’d get depressed so fast!

    as for the term short king, that’s absolutely hilarious to me, I approve of its use lol.

    I think that part of it is how, to me at least, the term “fat” is so generic and hard to nail down to a discrete definition, implying that the word really doesn’t have a clear connection to reality.

    well, there’s a clear definition as to what is considered to be overweight, and if someone fits that category, it’s up to them to decide how they take it. it’s a lifestyle choice for that person, in my opinion, and I know plenty of people that are happy with their larger size and others that would like to bring their weight down. but comparison will always make someone feel bad about themselves if they dont take the comparison as constructive criticism.




  • I feel like I had the same feelings surrounding work after graduating college. I got out of it by thinking, “What would a confident person do in this situation?”

    eventually, my confidence rose a lot and I stopped thinking like this because I became a person with a lot of confidence.

    also, don’t go so hard on yourself. if youre doing a good job and your superiors are letting you know the work you are doing is great, there is no need to stress. is there something in particular about your job that makes you feel like you’re not putting in enough effort?







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    6 months ago

    if reddit has a specific use for you that you’re unable to find anywhere else, you should utilize reddit and not feel bad about it.

    maybe one day, lemmy will be a proper alternative for people in your position, but there’s no use trying to stay away from reddit if you’re unable to do your job effectively without it. good luck.