I didn’t mean stop living with parents I meant stop failing.

Shit, I failed for most of my 20s and then it got worse. Waaaaay fucking worse, like, I Mean it when I say worst than for most people. I don’t really want to get into it here, but bad.

And then I learned some lessons and worked my ass off and here we are.

So! Stop? You’re 30, not 70

Literally everyone I know does, though. It’s your calendar, your email, your communication. The only jobs I can imagine that you don’t need to have a mobile device are when you are a drone who has to sit where the boss tells you all day long. Even then, your work likely communicates with staff via text or an app.

Has it been awhile since you worked somewhere?

Lol I don’t know. I guess if you work at Amazon or something having one could be considered optional. My job is literally dependant on my cell phone, and my ability to handle emails calls and texts while away from the office is a core of my ability to earn enough money to pay my bills.

If I didn’t have a cell phone for even 1 day, I would make $0 that day at my job.

Agreed and that’d be great. But also, no that doesn’t help this individual right now at all.

Of course a better paying job will help. If your job paid more and you spend the same, suddenly and by definition, the person would not be as broke.

Why even mention no cell phones?

In the 1700s they budgeted by not paying all electric bill! So frugal. 🤣

No one in western society can function or even have a job probably, without a cell phone in 2023

When I had a job that didn’t pay enough, I did side work. For me, for a long time, that was reffing mens hockey.

Another time I was struggling I approached my boss and said I know I’m not your best employee right now, but I want to turn it around and get into a higher paying position. What do you need me to do? Then I did it, and moved up.

5 yrs ago we moved to anew city and I started over in a new thing. I took a job that didn’t really cover our bills, and my wife and I had to make some cuts.

But I wanted certain freedoms like the freedom to do my hobbies or take a vacation, so identified ways to earn additional income through the job I had (in my case it was handling little repairs like replacing smoke detector batteries and light bulbs, installing missing door stops and changing deadbolts). I’ve kept grinding until I took over for my boss, and I continue to handle repairs also. Effectively I work a job and side job at the same time 6 days a week. I work fucking hard, but I had nice vacations with my fam this summer, live in a good house and drive a good vehicle.

So honestly - and while I don’t think this is how it should be - in the system we have, I just grind harder. I am amazed at my ability to do this now in my 30s and now 40s compared to how lazy (in hindsight) I was in my 20s.

By the way! I’m also pretty happy now because my job is (mostly) ok, I don’t dread Mondays or anything most weeks.

After PHM I just listened to other Ray porter audiobooks for awhile, it was ok. And yes, the audio book is very very very good.

Haven’t watched in 20 yrs.

Clockwork orange, on the other hand I watch every couple yrs

Thanks!

Who is top left?

Civilization 1.

He got sick on his days off like a real man. Didn’t take a personal day because he was feeling low. Did his job, earning for the man. And he fucking deserved that candy!

I book service calls (repairs). Between calls and especially using my hands free while driving between service calls, I return phone calls and texts. When I get where I’m going, if I’m ever early, I respond to emails or place calls. If I finish a thing early or ever have to wait for people, I return texts calls and emails while waiting.

Ive also aced driving distance between places in the city where I work so I’m able to build a solid schedule without running behind.

At night, to clear my head, I schedule a bunch of texts and emails to send off first thing in the morning. Gives the impression I’m working even though I’m probably still asleep.

Time management.

Ive become a fucking pro at squeezing as many tasks into a day as I possibly can. I frequently get told they have no idea how I keep on top of things. I basically work 2 and a half full time jobs for people at the same company, and I accomplish it by overlapping my time and billing per item not per hour

In my industry licensing is done on our own time, as a condition of employment. If it’s actually just 4 hrs, I might just bite the bullet and do it.

And potentially negotiate a pay bump, as you agree to increase your value to their benefit, as long as there’s something in it for you also. Especially if working in Z is at all less convenient

Oh I tried to reply to the op

It could be slain if it was worded differently. But no, it isn’t slain in that sentence

I eventually changed some shit. Changed careers a couple times. Found one that isn’t so bad. Don’t get me wrong I wouldn’t do it if I didn’t need money, but as far as jobs go it’s fine.

You could find remote or work closer to home. Find home closer to work. Change careers completely (although while doing it, I made less and it was harder, it paid off eventually and now that it’s done, I’m glad I did it).

You change jobs until you find one where you aren’t miserable. That’s it. That’s the whole thing. I don’t work even remotely close to my educational skillset or previous work experience would suggest. But you know what? It’s all still helpful. I learned to be a better communicator, salesman, etc at the other jobs and they all come in handy now.

I mean, slew?? It’s slayed. C’mon.