I have recently learned that the new helicopter parent type is the snowplow parent - these are the ones that not only shield their kids from the world, but also fully manage their lives for them. I work for the University of California and seeing how absolutely helpless these kids are is scary.
I’m so sorry and hugs to you, and thank you for sharing his story. Please hang in there and if Bear needs to go he knows he was always loved and cared for. Kiss your fur baby for me.