There are a couple of things here… firstly you’re thinking about him being with someone else - that’s not just a ‘breakup’, that’s worse.
Anyway, I found relaxing to be difficult so I went out and did stuff - also I just met lots of friends and tried not to be on my own. During my last breakup, I had someone to meet every day after work for a week - and that put some distance which made it easier.
That all depends on how, and the context in which it’s done. My first girlfriend would spend hours tickling my back in between sessions - I never forgot those sunny days.
Now with more aggressive tickling - it is akin to a violent attack, and my father used to tickle me until I couldn’t stand it, and then push some more. Often it ended with me in tears… so with my son, sometimes I’ll grab a foot and start tickling it like mad - but I have a MUCH shorter cutoff time so that it ends with him laughing.
So it’s not simple - but consent is a huge issue.
Alternatives to Google, to YouTube, Reddit, Twitter, Facebook, Messenger, alternatives to Chromium/Chrome browsers - these are important things to be aware of.
SearXNG has search handled for me - scraping Bing and Google amongst others (and often I see Google results are low down on my list).
Not really - as the weeks and months go by, people will gravitate… and individual groups can update their names/descriptions if they become aware of a similar instance.
This is the way.
I’m not blind, but I think everyone wants to start paying attention to ownership - internet belongs to Google and is rapidly increasingly controlled by containers - like Meta, instagram and Reddit if we don’t step outside the prison.
RSS is one of the oldest protocols existing. Basically it’s like a feed with links to things posted…
I’d suggest you start with Feedly or Inoreader, make an account and take a look.
For me, it means that I can see notifications (Inoreader) telling me how many unread items have occurred across the 79 websites I added as feeds.
I have a folder for ‘Fediverse’ with feeds like Lemmy - ukraine (also Reddit’s r/ukraine).
I have a ‘Linux’ folder, containing a few interesting blogs - like Niccolo’s KDE developer blog, a few news sites, plus announcements from my OS forum.
I have a ‘News’ folder with various sources (one is a journalist I know with a Facebook page - as I don’t use Facebook).
I have a ‘Video’ folder
I have a ‘Time Waster’ folder which has things like Digg, WindowSwap, Drive & Listen
Basically, any time you make an account and request updates from a website, the same can be done with NO account and simply copying the RSS link.
It gives you updates on things you don’t need to bother bookmarking or opening to follow.
Ah, when I do that, I see ‘Subscribe Pending’ :(
Strangely, I cancelled and subscribed again - now ✔ joined
Inoreader works very nicely for me. I have quite a few folders set up… Stuff I had bookmarks for, but rarely visited lately…
Stuff from the ‘other’ place - useful fodder to consider ‘bridging’ or just ‘copy/pasting’ over in Fediverse :P
I added the Firefox extension, so if I visit Youtube - for example (open this in a PRIVATE window, not logged in) Insights from Ukraine and Russia then I can Easily add the RSS by searching in Inoreader.
Here’s Daily Dose of Internet
The beauty being that you can quickly go through all this stuff - great keyboard accessibility (90% covered with Shift J-K to go to the next/previous feed, Shift-X to toggle expansion of the folder, J - K to go (and mark read) the next/previous item (but you can ALWAYS view all articles in a thread)… all without visiting the sites.
Feedly and Inoreader are both awesome - and you can (and should regularly) export a list of your feeds as a backup/migration strategy.
Cool - but I’m not on Beehaw (I’m on lemmy.world) to add to the confusion, and I see here both an up and down arrow…
Plus there are way more people here who aren’t dicks
Well there are just WAY less people here, and the barrier to entry is still pretty high - dicks (and millions of good people) are still filtered out by this.
WTheRtRevKaiser - you didn’t post a link to the ‘megathread’ - I’m not sure I know where that is. Sorry… I need a tutorial for every suggested action ;)
Well, despite the difficulties translating to Federated platforms, I will certainly be working on alternative social platforms.
I no longer use Quora or Facebook…
I unsubscribed my ‘YouTube’ channels and added them as RSS feeds, so there’s no need for me to be signed in there to consume content from creators I follow.
I hope that a month or two with the Fediverse will allow me to understand it better. I’m sure that many Fediverse users will also remain on Reddit and be able to advise folks on what to do.
If anyone on, for example, r/firefox announced activity over here, I’d follow them here. So whatever the ‘bots’ say, I know what’s occurring in my corner.
Haha marketing is what it is… a joke I made up some 30 years ago was that, despite what we see on the surface - the evidence proves that women are disgusting, dirty, fat, ugly animals that need a vast array of products to be created so that they can go outside without offending everyone…
So yes, you’re right to find this ridiculous and offensive - but at the heart of it is simple greed, which is the real meaning of the American Dream.