AttackBunny

It’s not about needing a safe space. It’s when you say something, and then someone comes by and starts picking apart one piece of what you said. Which never even relates to the conversation at hand anyhow. Or they try to “correct” you about some ridiculously minute grammar mistake/word choice. Or even better, they interpret what you’re trying to say completely wrong, and go on the offensive.

Sadly no. I guess it’s a good thing. I’m just not on any social media much now.

I came over with the initial reddit defector wave. I loved it here. You could have civil conversations, even when you disagreed with someone else. It honestly felt like the forums of the early 2000s again. Then it started getting more aggressive, and all the “well…aksually” type replies started happening. I find myself hardly on lemmy/kbin/beehaw anymore because of it.

Hands down one of the worst “feature” of new vehicles IMO. If you need help on a hill, either use the parking brake like everyone else, learn to drive better, or just drive an auto.

Yes, I have never owned anything else. I really struggle to drive auto/CVT, honestly, it’s so confusing for me.

Early 40s. Murica.

You can also gift something like 12 million in your lifetime tax free, so pass on as much as you can, to your family that way, before you die.

If you don’t keep all your money in 1 bank accounts the FDIC insurance will cover it. Iirc it’s either 250k per account, or maybe it was per person, per institution.

Maybe I’m dumb, but if I go buy property in Mexico (for instance) and the government decides to take it, or I stop paying on it, or run out of money, I don’t get any protections for my money. I can’t file for bankruptcy and keep my money safe. I gambled and lost.

Why do non American companies/people have the opportunity to file for bankruptcy as protection in a country they aren’t beholden to the rules of?

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You’re not alone. There are a lot of people in your position. As others have said, it may make sense to set reasonable goals, and give yourself a small reward when you pay off a card or reach another milestone you set.

As someone else said, pay minimums on everything, except the smallest card, where you put all the disposable income toward. That will get paid off quickest, and then you move to the next smallest. The only way I can think of this being a bad plan is if you have a large debt with a significantly higher interest rate, in which case pay as much to that as you can, then move down the line.

I can feel the tortitude

Can I promote a community I started, when I migrated here? I had hoped it would pick up a little steam, but sadly, I’m alone there. If you’re a woman runner, check out https://kbin.social/m/XXRunning

That OSHA warning is great.

It sounds like I’m about the same age as you. Yeah, it’s crazy how well it worked. I remember those VHS too. They were so awkward. It’s also crazy how many people my age STILL thinks things like unions, OSHA, workers rights, never talking to other employees about your wages, etc are bad. Like does no one look around?

I’m in my 40s, and I’m still not ready to have grey hair. I’ll keep dying it until I’m ready for it. As for the rest of the stuff people put themselves through, no thanks. I’m not trying to spend huge sums of money on treatments, peels, products, or plastic surgery.

I have a bunch of younger cousins who are like you, they just don’t give a shit about it. They and their friends don’t think it’s required to shave their legs/pits. They aren’t dying their hair, or any of the other things to keep looking younger. They saw they parents doing it all, and just don’t want to participate. I’m a little envious of their no fucks to give, but like I said, I’m not there yet.

I understand this. My early life was pretty bad. In my 20s, I got away from my family a lot more, and started living my life (mostly) how I wanted to. I’m in my 40s now, and I look significantly younger than most of my contemporaries. I’m not saying this to brag in any way. I’m simply trying to point out that stress and all those things in early life don’t HAVE to lead to anything. They make us stronger, more resilient, and capable, as much as that sucks to have gone through.

Not trying to preach or tell you anything you likely don’t already know, but as for exercising not feeling good, change it up! Find a new sport. Take a break from your usual workout. Start walking more. Look into yoga. Yoga is truly one of those things that everyone should do. It’s crazy how much is affects your day to day. Everyone I know over like 30 complains about back pain, and I used to too. I have NONE (unless I do something stupid) after I started doing yoga 5 days a week.

Also, evaluate how you eat, and what you eat. I’ve started noticing A LOT more that what I eat the days before a workout have a much bigger impact on my workout than ever. I ate terribly this weekend, and yesterday, and my morning run was so much worse than normal today. I was dragging ass, and it was HARD, even though it was my mostly flat fast run (spoiler it wasn’t fast today)

Fair. Thank you for the answer.

I’m genuinely curious, and I’m not trying to start an argument, but why do you think that OP should pay for the cab ride home? I’m going to assume the woman was not an escort, that she went to OP’s place of her own accord, and was a willing participant. So my questions is why is it seen as the “right thing to do” to give her money to get home?

I ask this as a woman, who would never assume that I didn’t need to figure my own shit out, after a night of partying, because it’s my responsibility. I get it is probably the nice thing to do, maybe, but even then, she theoretically had fun too.

@MrBubbles96

@Kujo_D2407

Paying for sex is negotiated ahead of time. Always.

If I had some fun with a random dude, and he asked me for money after (without any discussion beforehand), I’d laugh in his face. Largely because, um what, but also because that’s not my thing.

Unfortunately, there are still multiple generations of people that have been brainwashed into thinking that unions are the devil, and people should stop whining, and just get a better job. Those same people don’t see how the modern job market has changed, in addition to the obvious issues with their beliefs. I remember all the propaganda when I was younger.

Those same people also tend to rail against anything that offers THEM protections, like OSHA. It’s an uphill battle.

@Hairyblue

@tintory

Agreed, but in theory you wouldn’t be able to add milk (it’s a drink after all)

I prefer green tea personally, but recently found some Hawaiian Mamaki Tea, and I’m loving it.

It’s not. Somewhere along the way (at least in US) there was a “movement” for “body positivity”, which is great, when applied reasonably. It should be “we all have things we don’t like about ourselves, but so does everyone, so love you”. That’s totally reasonable. That’s healthy. That’s fantastic for younger people who see all the “influencers” and “models” or fashion images, and feel bad about themselves.

What it turned into was “no matter how unhealthy/obese you are, love your body, and be outspoken about it”. So, regardless of being 400lb, incredibly unhealthy, and doing major damage to yourself, love and be proud of your body.

Hell, some of my most formative years were the heroin chic era. It’s equally damaging, in the opposite direction. At least women’s clothing models are looking more and more like “normal” women, in a lot of cases.