I love genuine questions and people putting in the effort to love and understand each other better. If you come at me just wanting to argue I’m going to troll you back. FAFO.

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Joined 1 year ago
Cake day: June 12th, 2023
  • Apytele@sh.itjust.workstoMemes@lemmy.ml•Big lie, starter pack
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    12 days ago

    You know this is the recommended stance when deescalating violent psych patient because it keeps your hands visible (as in, not hiding something) and in front of your body / face in case they start swinging. I’ve never really felt comfortable doing it though and this kind of explains a possible reason why. I actually had a guy the other night who asked why everyone else was scared of him and I didn’t seem to be. There were probably a couple other reasons though (I’ve dealt with waaay wilder men, and also he mostly struck me as young, dumb, and loud, and dumb in the young sense not in the cognitively not there sense). But as far as this pose idk it just always seemed really patronizing to me. I usually stand more like One of these where at least one hand is on the neck or side of the head. Usually with my hands overlapping but my fingers not intertwined so they’re easy to separate and throw up in front of my face but not overtly defensive.

  • Apytele@sh.itjust.workstoAsklemmy@lemmy.ml•Is it a reasonable expectation to check peoples profiles when commenting on their comments to ensure I am pronouning them correctly?
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    13 days ago

    It probably doesn’t help that I’m incredibly irreverent of pretty much everything. I got really into western esoteric spirituality this past year (its really been helping me with introspection and integrating my personality in ways that neither secular therapy or my fundie upbringing ever quite fully did on their own) but at the same time I refuse to take any religion seriously, especially not my own.

    Anyway someone in a related community got upset at me for having my irreverent attitude because I was “culturally appropriating” tarot cards from PoC and like dude. Look up where that shit is from its Northern Italy where my family is from just two generations ago they were fresh off the boat when the War was starting. You’re appropriating tarot from me. And if you want to get into the specific spiritual / divinatory usage that’s even fucking whiter. The closest you’re gonna get to claiming cultural appropriation is if you go all the way back before the tarot to the mummy dust the hermetic order of the golden dawn were probably mixing into the coke they were snorting while making that shit the fuck up based on their judeo-christian / classical mythology crossover fanfiction.

    People just wanna be mad about shit and at this point I really don’t have the energy to spend appeasing people who have already decided to be mad at me. Imma just be over here using these cards to let my subconscious tell me which level of Maslow’s hierarchy of needs I fucked up this week.

  • Apytele@sh.itjust.workstoAsklemmy@lemmy.ml•Is it a reasonable expectation to check peoples profiles when commenting on their comments to ensure I am pronouning them correctly?
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    13 days ago

    I’m pretty apathetic to gender in general but I’ve had gender confirming surgery to be NB which I guess technically makes me trans and to be prefectly honest I’ve never felt more judged for it than by the lemmy LGBTQ+ community. The 50y/o southern man that was my nursing supervisor back when I was a new graduate was more respectful of my gender and lived experiences than these people. Honestly the thing they seem to hate most is specifically me expressing apathy for gender; I’ve mentioned that my transness expresses itself by not caring about the whole pronoun thing or needing to have any specific pronouns for myself personally, but that I understand it’s a matter of respect for others and I’ve literally gotten banned for saying that. Like almost exactly that. They’re absolutely hateful bastards for no reason other than that they’re upset and need everybody else to be upset too. I’m lucky I have a handful of supportive people irl because I sure asf wasn’t gonna find it here!

  • Apytele@sh.itjust.workstoLefty Memes@lemmy.dbzer0.com•Ahh yes another business magazine article assuring us we don't want more money.English
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    17 days ago

    If emotional salary is another word for higher nurse:patient ratio I’m actually all for it and would treasure being able to slow down and both conserve more energy for myself and have more time to actually feel like I’m taking care of people instead of shoving pills in people’s faces and running on to the next one. That’s also a functional raise in that I’d be doing less overall work for the same pay.

    But realistically that is also an increased expenditure for my boss same as paying me more and they’re actually talking about more tea carts and pizza parties.

    Was just talking to my coworker last night about how ppl be sayin’ dumb shit like “ratios aren’t the only thing that affect quality of care its more complex than that!” It’s 90% of the problem. Stop acting like that other shit matters even half as much and admit that 90% of the problem has a super simple fix that you just don’t want to pay for.

    Same with housing and the mental health crisis. “Well it’s more complex than that people actually also need-” shut up. Just shut the fuck up. If any other problems in the world had super simple 90% fixes and then you only have to worry about the remaining 10% complex part we would be jumping on that shit.

    But telling jeff bezos to pay his fair fucking share and putting it towards housing people is just straight heresy in the church of capitalism.