Much about even those relationships is mediated by the market, though. If you want to spend time with people as adults, you have to pay rent in a bar or coffee shop or festival, etc. Even if you can do it for ‘free’ at someone’s house, it tends to imply getting some food and drinks in, soft or alcoholic, even if you prepare things together rather than ordering. And it only takes one person in the group to be obsessed by some asinine bourgeois shit for every engagement to revolve around spending money and keeping up appearances. I even know married couples who tit-for-tat about paying for things. If you’ve not seen or experienced this, I’m jealous.
Even if you can do it for ‘free’ at someone’s house, it tends to imply getting some food and drinks in, soft or alcoholic, even if you prepare things together rather than ordering
It’s also only socially acceptable to invite somebody to “hang out at your house” if you’re both already close friends. Otherwise, you have to go to a bar, go to some event, get food together, etc.
That’s right. And it relies on having space. Not really possible in shared accommodation even if you’re close. That depends a little on the friend and who you’re loving with, I suppose.
It’s also only socially acceptable to invite somebody to “hang out at your house” if you’re both already close friends. Otherwise, you have to go to a bar, go to some event, get food together, etc.
Much about even those relationships is mediated by the market, though. If you want to spend time with people as adults, you have to pay rent in a bar or coffee shop or festival, etc. Even if you can do it for ‘free’ at someone’s house, it tends to imply getting some food and drinks in, soft or alcoholic, even if you prepare things together rather than ordering. And it only takes one person in the group to be obsessed by some asinine bourgeois shit for every engagement to revolve around spending money and keeping up appearances. I even know married couples who tit-for-tat about paying for things. If you’ve not seen or experienced this, I’m jealous.
It’s also only socially acceptable to invite somebody to “hang out at your house” if you’re both already close friends. Otherwise, you have to go to a bar, go to some event, get food together, etc.
That’s right. And it relies on having space. Not really possible in shared accommodation even if you’re close. That depends a little on the friend and who you’re loving with, I suppose.
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