• jubilationtcornpone@sh.itjust.works
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    Went through a divorce almost 6 years ago. My ex has an undiagnosed mental illness and my marriage was really bad so for me it was kind of a weight off my shoulders. It was still hard but it gets better. Find someone you can talk to about it, even if it’s just a therapist, and take lots of time for self care. I did a lot of fishing, hiking, and golfing for a couple years. I had forgotten how much I enjoyed doing that stuff.

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        Isn’t that a twisted combination of disorders of varying degrees? I think my therapist was reluctant to put that label on me. I don’t know much about it but it seems to have a stigma

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          Borderline personality disorder. An ex had it. Even when it’s not malignant and there’s treatment and awareness of disease, it is very challenging. It makes it very hard for the person to live congenially with anyone. It sucks to see an otherwise nice, fun and lovely person get self-sabotaged so badly that they can’t keep any relationship for long. Cognitive behavioral therapy helps, a lot, though.

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        A lot of bpd are misdiagnosed autism or other conditions, it’s particularly misdiagnosed among women