I’m not sure I should start this conversation and I’ve been rewriting this a lot lol. But I could use some relating and opinions from fellow internet leftists

Ok so, to keep it really simple: I happened to share a meal with somebody I really liked. I have interacted casually (no flirting) for about a dozen minutes total and we exchanged contact because of shared-interests (not dating)

Now my brain is fried

I’m thinking about her way too much and it gives be bad vibes, she probably has no idea and I can’t imagine the sheer horror of realising that someone is thinking this much about you after so little interaction.

I want to be a well-behaved straight (kinda bi but that’s beyond the point) guy, I’m trying to be an ally to the feminist cause, so, failing this spectacularly at behaving normally in relation to women disgust me. I know I can’t remove the patriarchy from my body but I damn wish I could.

  • Blockocheese [any]@hexbear.netEnglish
    35·
    2 months ago

    There are no thought crimes.

    If your outward behavior hasn’t changed to make them uncomfortable, you’re beating yourself up over nothing, comrade

    • lil_tank [any, he/him]@hexbear.netOPEnglish
      7·
      2 months ago

      There are no thought crimes.

      As a nineteeneightyfour supporter I have to disagree

      But seriously I do feel like it’s creepy, it’s only my subjective experience and I don’t necessarily feel guilty about it but I do feel wierd and uncomfortable

      • spectre [he/him]@hexbear.netEnglish
        15·
        2 months ago

        I don’t think we need to jump to extremes to make a point (pedophilia vs an intense crush). I also think that by centering pedophilia outright, you are not going to stimulate any sort of quality discussion on the topic. Anytime it’s brought up it’ll just be an anti-pedo hate sesh, which I’m ok with, but it’s not quality.

        • EmoThugInMyPhase [he/him]@hexbear.netEnglish
          4·
          2 months ago

          There’s nothing unhealthy about it unless you’re mentally distressed about the sheer act of being attracted to someone or acting impulsively. That’s a whole different issue. Healthy people can fantasize about sex and a future with some stranger and move on with their day without disturbing anyone or themselves