• Storm@lemm.ee
    882·
    1 年前

    Look. It’s pointless to compare yourself to others. Everyone does things at their own pace, on their own time. Who cares if someone has lost their virginity before you have? Genuinely, it doesn’t fucking matter. Life your own life, and speak your own truth.

    • Hyggyldy@sffa.communityEnglish
      471·
      1 年前

      The virginity is less of an issue than 31 years of loneliness. Like, people say you don’t need a relationship to be happy and that’s true, but it really doesn’t fucking help in the slightest. It’s just a pointless platitude from people who don’t understand the pain.

      • jabberati@social.anoxinon.de
        101·
        1 年前

        Having been in a long distance relationship during COVID, with times where I couldn’t meet my girlfriend for 12 and 18 months, I know just how the loneliness crushed me and how much happier I am now we’re married and living together.

        • Mario_Dies.wav@lemmy.dbzer0.com
          4·
          1 年前

          Oof yeah. My husband and I shared a house, but we rarely talked or saw each other during that time because he works in healthcare. We lived in separate parts of the house and didn’t even observe holidays.

      • OurToothbrush@lemmy.ml
        417·
        1 年前

        Men need to be learn to be emotionally intimate with their friends instead of expecting that out of a partner. Loneliness should not be synonymous with being single.

        • Hyggyldy@sffa.communityEnglish
          101·
          1 年前

          Much like people who think relationship and sex are synonymous, you are vastly oversimplifying the range of human relationships.

            • Confuzzeled@lemmy.world
              10·
              1 年前

              Maybe you don’t but many people want a romantic and sexual relationship. There are many things that we don’t need to survive but make our lives vastly more enjoyable. I’ve had long term relationships and times where I’ve been single and while I enjoy my own company and the freedom being single I do miss the closeness of a romantic relationship. Friendships are great but it’s not the same.

              • OurToothbrush@lemmy.ml
                110·
                1 年前

                I do miss the closeness of a romantic relationship. Friendships are great but it’s not the same.

                Get good at being closer to your friends.

  • Mossy Feathers (She/They)@pawb.social
    20·
    1 年前

    I’ve heard that if you make it to 30, you become a wizard! Don’t be upset you’re a virgin, be glad that you’re still on the path to wizardry; for once you’ve left the path, you cannot return. Many a mortal have become enamored with animalistic rituals; casting aside their true potential in exchange for the temporary satisfaction of fulfilling their carnal desires. You, however, may still become a powerful wizard; one who’ll shock and awe the fools who so eagerly left the path of knowledge and metaphysical enlightenment.

    • Makeshift@sh.itjust.works
      2·
      1 年前

      Hi I made it to 30 and no wizard powers yet.

      … Wait is anticheat on? I got a hacked client that automatically disabled my desire for partnered “fun time” so it made the grind to 30 with that status effect a lot easier.

      Did I miss out on wizard powers?!

  • OurToothbrush@lemmy.ml
    299·
    1 年前

    Virginity is fake and made up.

    Also sex is fun but not some revelatory experience(but what do I know, Im just a lesbian, a group which famously has many more orgasms than average), eo not base your self esteem on having it or not having it.

    It also isn’t a substitute for intimacy, which when I talk to people who are weird about not having sex, I see them conflate needing a hug or to express their feelings with having sex.

    Rant over.

    • Bongles@lemm.ee
      251·
      1 年前

      To be fair, Someone that has “more orgasms than average” saying not to worry about it is like a rich guy saying money doesn’t buy happiness.

      • OurToothbrush@lemmy.ml
        109·
        1 年前

        No, it is like a rich guy saying “Money doesn’t make you more mature, spiritually enlightened or a better person”

    • eldain@feddit.nl
      6·
      1 年前

      Thank you for your rant.

      To add: Your SO is not a replacement for a social network. Don’t hunt for the one, place people you click with at all distance levels as you get to know them. A healthy social network leads to healthy relationships.